Friday, April 04, 2008

You Want Money For What?

OK I’m pissed. Twice this month I’ve had friends get in touch with me to tell me that they are intending to adopt a baby and they asked me for my financial support. WTF? You want to adopt a baby and you are begging for money to do so? What does that say about your skills of providing for your family? If you can’t afford to adopt a kid on your then you shouldn’t adopt a kid. What the hell makes you think you have the resources to continue rearing this child, if you can’t afford the down payment? More ironic is that they are asking me…someone who doesn’t even like children. You’d have a better chance of getting money from me for you gambling addiction or your 20/20, Night Train habit.

Now as for adoption agencies charging so much for this baby brokering, I think people should boycott you until you have so many babies on your hands that you will pay people to take them, you rat bastards.

Now, I know the biological clock it ticking, and you love feathering the nest and you think that having a child will equal more love in your life but damn, get a puppy and get over it.


Blogger Trop said...

Goodness! It would never occur to me to ask others to assist in financing an adoption. I am even embarrassed by baby showers.

6:00 AM  
Blogger Hahn at Home said...

They should all move to Nebraska where you can work with this big and wonderful agency and the kids are then free. No charge.


This is the most ridiculous thing I've heard of. There are half a million kids in care for adoption right here that don't cost a dime either. Dont' get me going.

6:19 AM  
Blogger Syd said...

Are you serious? I can't even imagine someone asking this. Un-fucking-believable.

7:29 AM  
Blogger The Guy Who Writes This said...

I forgot to mention that they are trying for babies from another continent. Hence the added expense.

8:51 AM  
Blogger Denise said...

Funny, I have two little monsters and every now and then I remember my mother saying "Just get a dog, you can tie them up in the yard" I love my kids but I don't like kids in general enough to rear someone else's, call me callous.

9:30 AM  
Blogger Beth said...

There are babies needing families, there are families needing babies. No one should be making money off this kind of situation.

And I've never heard of "friends" being asked to chip in for an adoption. Being me, I wouldn't be pissed off but I'd certainly be taken aback.

10:27 AM  
Blogger Chantel said...

I don't like children either. I havetwo teenagers that I'll bargain with them for on the cheap. They can have all the added anxiety that comes with "Kids these days" and have cheap labor.

You know how to contact me.
he, he, he!!

12:34 PM  
Blogger weese said...

see...these are the reasons why i just love you.

12:55 PM  
Blogger Mike S said...

It's nothing new. I was actually "purchased" decades back because my adoptive mother couldn't get approved (WITH GOOD REASON) through normal means. Having adopted, fostered, and raised our own.....I STILL would take a needy child in if we were able physically. No matter how much trouble they were at times, every one(16 foster, 2 adopted, 4 ours) of them turned out just fine.

Really torques me off that these folks feel the need to go abroad to get a baby as the ones available here have problems or are too old for their egos. And asking to borrow $$$!!! WTF?????

2:00 PM  
Blogger The Guy Who Writes This said...

Denise, you're realistic, not callous.

Beth, always the polite Canadian...Taken aback. You are precious.

Chantel, you have to get rid of them before they can find their way home on their own. At this age adoption would only encourage mooching at new levels.

Weese, Darlin, you're making me blush...

Mike, I agree, if one can afford them they should have as many as they want, but if you can't you shouldn't. Financial instability is now way to raise a family even if one thinks that being poor builds character.

5:26 PM  
Blogger The Guy Who Writes This said...

And Mike, they weren't asking for a loan.

5:50 AM  
Blogger Mike S said...

Guy, I've seen loadsa folks that being poor built their character but, for a goodly number of them, the character they built wasn't optimum. Can't grasp somebody outright asking for money unless they're in dire straits, a professional panhandler, or your child(last 2 kinda the same in my experience hehehe). Even then asking for funds for an ill-advised 'adventure' affecting another person's whole life and development is the height of illogical behavior and faulty judgement. I hope the others they ask have your wisdom and refuse as well.

9:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that your willingness to support a friend with a gambling addiction over a friend wanting to better the life of a child from a third world country speaks volumes about your character.

Your "friend" -who I don't believe would be one were she to read this- is not asking you to partake in the raising of this child, so your like or dislike of children is pretty irrelevant to your argument.

This is about helping a child already in existence. I would agree with you were you talking about bringing a child into the world when you could not afford it. This child has been brought into the world already. Your "friend" wants to better that child's life. While she may need assistance bringing that child to her, it does not mean that she could not afford the child once initial fees were paid.

10:49 AM  
Blogger The Guy Who Writes This said...

Anon, I will agree with you on one thing, the gambling addiction, but there is always a chance of getting that money back if they win.

But maybe I should invest my donations to keeping abortion safe and legal in the USA and buy cartons of condoms for the developing nations.

2:47 PM  
Blogger Mom of Three said...

We live paycheck to paycheck. But we'd make room for another in a heartbeat. They wouldn't get designer clothes, but they'd have plenty of clothes, shoes and food. We don't care about the color, either. They'd laugh a lot and get tons of love. But we can't afford to buy a child. Because they are for sale, like puppies in a pound, plain and simple. They spend so much time looking for families who are some kind of their idea of "ideal" that they pass the rest of us good folks up. Makes me very sad.

11:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My family is big into foster kids and I have many friends who have adopted both in this country and from overseas. I'll tell you the truth $$ output is not that much different going overseas and often it is 10 times faster with far less legal hassle.

Adoption is expensive, sometimes for good reason. Children are expensive but even at a big layout their are still to many people who buy children for flat out wrong and immoral reasons.

My brother has three kids that are "his" legally that started out foster kids. For each kid it took well over a year to get them converted from foster to adopted and that was fast tracked because they were all hard to place older kids. The two little ones they were fostering were removed when they made the first gesture toward adoption. The state wanted them left as premium available babies to attract other families. A case worker said they were valuable commodities.

It's a screwed up system and the ones who suffer are the kids.

9:08 AM  

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