Recluse
People assume that I am not a people person, that I’m a loner, that I don’t like groups of people, or any one person for more than four hours at a time. I’ve made comments on local blogs that probably says that in a nut shell, (probably? Exact words!)
I truly am sorry I disappoint so many by not being more social or social at all. But, that’s the way I’m wired. I feel it’s better for others if I don’t socialize because when I do I speed past sarcastic and jump into a hyper-drive of sardonic. I’ve seen it all before, and I don’t want myself to become involved with that sort of behavior again. So forgive me if I seem a bit stand-offish.
posted by The Guy Who Writes This at 5:55 AM
11 Comments:
Wow, Guy, I go away for a couple days and what do I see? I share your people disease - four hours is optimum, beyond that it's "how can I leap out of this car"
I am just now coming to terms with the fact that I am a bit of a loner myself and I kind of resent feeling like I have to apologize to my friends and family about it. Maybe one day I will get over that too. It's just the way I roll.
This may come as no surprise to you or some of your other readers to know that I am most definitely NOT wired this way.
And I think there are times when I need to be. Maybe buying one of those "unwelcome" mats would be a good start.
Guy & Lori...badly need pointers on how you achieved the remarkable 4 hour mark?? My wife would be happy to see me move past the 1 hour limit:)
Lets see:
I have caller ID and an answering machine and use both.
Then there is the electronic gate at the end of our lane that is always closed and locked.
I rotate codes regularly on the gate so even our best friends have to call and get a code in order to visit.
And if I see a car parked down at the gate unannounced, It can set there all day as far as I'm concerned. Next time they will have the courtesy to call first.
I'm with mike s.
Four hours seems like a very long visit unless we are busy doing something.
In fact, come to think of it, I NEVER visit friends or have visitors unless we are doing something productive.
Don't you worry, Guy... I feel the same way. I expend a lot of energy working to not have to be social. :)
I gotta get me one of those gates.
I often fantasize of life as a hermit LOL
I like you just fine the way you are.
I fail miserably in social situations. The more people in the group, the stupider I get and I end up going home feeling like a giant boob. I'm just not cool and I know it, but I keep trying anyway because deep down inside I really want to be liked. Ok... now I'm depressed. Thanks a lot.
Lori, Trish and Mel, Maybe it's a common trait we bloggers have, except Auntie L. She enjoys howling at the moon with a pack of other moon howlers. But we share just what we want with others and can visit other blogs, drop a comment or not and be on our way. This is our social life as sick as that might sound.
Mike, you raise the bar once again.
Syd, Gearhead's gate is cool and if you get in with a pickup truck you leave with a bed full of fruit. His fruit trees bend into the road to his house and if you drive fast enough you can get a couple bushels of plums.
Thanks Wen! Keep working on it, it's more fun than you think.
PDX Writer, welcome to Rust. It's actually cool knowing that you aren't cool. It true honesty without pretense. Hey, and it's OK to realize you are depressed. Stick around until September when most of the local readers start using their light boxes again. That will cheer anyone up.
You can't possibly be any more a recluse than I am. I'd love to live in the woods on top of a mountain and have my groceries air-lifted in. My husband, poor man, loves having people around. Makes you wonder how we made this marriage last 41 years.
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